Managing Up for Success

This post is distilled from Harvard Business Review’s multi-year series on “managing up.” Full credit to Harvard Business Review (HBR) for the original insights and frameworks. 

Managing up is a practical art of making your boss (and therefore your team and you) more effective. Different bosses require different moves, but a few principles apply to all. 

The universal principles

  • Do your job extraordinarily well. Reliability is the foundation of influence. Managing up starts and ends with great execution; meeting your commitments, and excellent communication. 

  • Anticipate needs. Learn what makes your boss tick (and what ticks them off). Bring solutions, not surprises. 

  • Be candid, early, and respectful. Treat feedback as a gift. It goes both ways. Agree on honesty as a norm. 

  • Act like a world-class executive assistant. Build trust, minimize crises, save time, turn goals into action. Tell the truth, and have the courage to speak up respectfully. 

If you have a brand-new boss

  • Build the relationship first. Ask how they like to work, share how you work, and connect on priorities. 

  • Study their style. Short vs. long, data vs. story, recommendation vs. options. Adapt accordingly. 

  • Collaborate, don’t just pitch. Co-shape decisions on issues that matter; offer helpful inputs. 

If your boss is in another location

  • Create a “virtual contract.” Set rules for cadence, responsiveness, and follow-through so nothing falls through the cracks. 

  • Set clear goals and frequent check-ins. Accountability beats ambiguity. 

  • Add human glue. Open meetings with 30-second personal-professional check-ins to build trust. 

If your boss is hands-off

  • Diagnose what’s missing: contact, discussion, or follow-up? Then fill the gap. 

  • Assume positive intent and keep them connected. Use brief, structured updates and invite their connections to help when needed. 

If you get conflicting messages

  • Name the double bind (lightly). Acknowledge the tension and ask for guidance on trade-offs. 

  • Vent safely, then act. Don’t let undiscussability paralyze you. Craft a public plan to navigate contradictions. 

If your boss is insecure or egotistical

  • Disarm defensiveness privately. Praise strengths before offering suggestions; frame improvements as shared wins. 

  • Increase transparency. Over-communicate context to reduce status threats and fear of the unknown. 

If your boss is indecisive (or all-knowing)

Indecisive

  • Define before deciding. Spend time clarifying the problem; decisions follow. 

  • Force the first step. Break big calls into small, safe commitments. 

  • Be the trusted sounding board. Help them surface what they need to move. 

All-knowing

  • Let them “discover” your ideas. Share half-baked concepts to invite their imprint and buy-in. 

  • Channel energy productively. Offer new arenas to explore so the team gets room to execute. 

If they’re long-winded

  • Change the setting, set limits. Diagnose where over-talking happens; propose five-minute agendas and hard stops. 

  • Reinforce brevity. Leaders improve, then regress. Keep norms tight and model concise. 

If you think you’re smarter than your boss

  • Reality-check yourself. Technical edge ≠ leadership effectiveness. Consider experience, relationships, and EQ. 

  • Keep your focus on results, not rank. Do excellent work; don’t campaign for their job. 

  • Help, don’t cover up. Complement their gaps; refuse to mask serious deficiencies. 

  • Find something to respect… or plan your exit. Chronic contempt destroys your soul. 

Sources & Credit

This post is an adaptation and summary of ideas from Harvard Business Review (HBR) articles on managing up. All kudos to the original HBR authors and editors; any emphasis or paraphrasing here is mine. 

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